Why is self-love life-changing?

SELF-LOVE is important for several fundamental reasons, not only for our mental health, but also for the quality of interpersonal relationships and overall satisfaction with life.

1. Healthy mental health

Self-love means accepting ourselves, with both our strengths and weaknesses. When we love ourselves, we are less likely to be consumed by doubt, guilt, or perfectionism, even though this can be greatly complicated by our nature and personality type, upbringing, role models, and the immediate environment that influences us.

If we feel mentally well, the risk of depression, anxiety, and burnout is reduced.

The World Health Organization defined health as early as 1946: "a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity."

2. Emphasis on relationships with others

When we value ourselves, we don't accept negative behavior, we can set boundaries, and we can be empathetic to others. Self-love therefore supports healthy, balanced relationships.

3. Resistance to stress and criticism

People who like themselves cope with setbacks more easily because they don't define themselves solely by their results. They don't see criticism as an attack on their worth, but as a reason to improve, if it's based on facts.

4. Motivation and personal growth

Self-love doesn't mean stagnation or selfishness. When we love ourselves, we want the best for ourselves. This motivates us to grow, learn new things, and make choices that benefit our lives and those around us.

5. Self-acceptance and authenticity

Self-love allows us to live according to our own values, not according to the expectations of others. We live more authentically, we feel freer and we are less bound by fears such as "I'm not good enough", "what will others think", etc.

Self-love in practice – how to strengthen it in everyday life

Positive monologue – the goal is to learn to notice one's own values and qualities instead of criticism

Exercise: every day, write down 3 things you are proud of about yourself, e.g. what you have accomplished, what positive qualities you have, etc.

Gratitude towards yourself – the goal is to build inner appreciation, instead of expecting appreciation from others

Exercise: in the evening, write: "Today I am grateful for… – e.g., saying “no”, even though it was difficult."

Setting boundaries – the goal is to respect yourself by protecting your time and life energy

Exercise: think about a situation where you feel uncomfortable and don't say anything. Try to prepare a sentence in advance that you will use next time. For example, "I can't now, I don't have the capacity," or "I need to think about it, I'll answer tomorrow."

Dealing with mistakes – the goal is to replace self-criticism with compassion and a realistic approach

Exercise: when you make a mistake, ask yourself: “Would I say this to someone else?” If the answer is “no,” then why say it to yourself?

Body and mind care – the goal is to perceive that you deserve care, peace and time to recover

Exercise: plan a conscious moment just for yourself every week: a walk, exercise, listening to music, sweets from a candy store, a hot bath, time without your phone, computer...

Your own weekly self-love plan to boost your self-confidence 

Day 1: recognize your strengths

• Write down at least 3 things you are good at: skills, qualities, experiences, positive aspects of your behavior towards others.

• You can ask someone close to you what they think and appreciate about you.

Day 2: Suppress your own critic

• Monitor your inner thoughts throughout the day. When you find yourself criticizing yourself, replace the sentence with a kinder version. For example: “I am completely incompetent” → “I am learning. Everyone makes mistakes.”

Day 3: Do something outside your comfort zone

• Choose a small step that scares you a little, but that can make you stronger if you take it. Examples: talk to someone new, sign up for a course, give feedback, speak up first.
• Focus on courage, not perfection.

Day 4: body and posture

• Today, pay attention to your posture - keep your back straight, breathe slowly, make eye contact, and focus so that your heart doesn't race.
• Do even 10 minutes of physical activity, because movement helps to strengthen the feeling of strength and control, both hormonally and psychologically.

Day 5: Show off

• Write down 3 things you did well or are proud of tonight, even if they seem insignificant. For example: "I did what I promised" or "I didn't get dragged into an argument."

• The goal is to build self-confidence.

Day 6: Set a boundary

• Choose a situation where you usually do something against yourself (out of pretense, fear, pressure).

• Try saying "no" today, or at least mentally prepare yourself for the moment when you will.

• Self-confidence grows when you stand up for yourself.

Day 7: reflection

• Answer these questions:

  • What did I realize about myself this week?

  • When did I feel proud?

  • What do I want to continue doing?

Use the energy of stones for self-love

Rosewood

• A symbol of unconditional love – for others and for yourself.

• Promotes gentleness, self-forgiveness, and heart healing.

• Calms inner criticism, strengthens kindness towards oneself.

Rhodonite

• It helps heal old wounds in love.

• It strengthens empathy for oneself, brings emotional balance.

• It connects self-love with forgiveness.

Kunzite

• A gentle stone of the heart, it helps to open up to love and acceptance.

• It calms the fear of rejection and increases self-esteem.

Positive energy of stones for self-confidence and personal strength

Citrine

• A stone of abundance and personal power.

• It promotes optimism, self-confidence and creative energy.

• It helps overcome the fear of failure.

Tiger's eye

• It grounds and at the same time gives courage.

• Helps in decision-making, protects against negativity.

• It strengthens will, determination and self-confidence.

Sunstone

• It brings joy, light and inner strength.

• It helps to abandon doubts, awakens faith in oneself.

How to work with stones?

• Wear stones as jewelry: bracelet, necklace, earrings...

• Keep them with you in your pocket or purse: a flatbread, a tumbled stone, or a guardian angel.

• Use their energy in affirmation, visualization or meditation.

• Place the stone under your pillow.

• Place the stone on your heart while relaxing.

Don't forget to clean and recharge your stones and jewelry regularly.

We wrote the article for you on May 30, 2025.

Was this article useful to you? Share it with your friends - click the Facebook button below this text.

© 2014 www.nefertitis.cz . This article as a whole or in part may not be copied or distributed without the prior written consent of www.nefertitis.cz . Our articles are protected by Copyscape and their copying is traceable and demonstrable. If you would like to use the information from the article for your blog, etc., we will be happy to provide you with the texts and images, please contact us by email at info@nefertitis.cz .